Premature ejaculation is a problem experienced by thousands of men all over the world, and it is one of the most uncomfortable things in the entire universe to talk about. Though it silently wrecks their sex lives, relationships, and even marriages, most men are unwilling to come forward with their problem and do something about it. Some use the Internet as a private way to search for help, but all they usually find are hundreds of ads for worthless pills and creams. "Snake oil," as my grandfather calls it. For those of you who face this problem and want to get serious and do something about it, here are two good beginner techniques to help you learn how to control your ejaculation.
1. Kegels. You may have heard pregnant women talk about doing these, but believe me, they can help you as well. The most effective way to do them is to wet a washcloth with warm water and hang it on your erect penis while standing. Contract your pubic muscles as if you were trying to stop your urine flow mid-stream, and hold for three seconds. Perform fifty repetitions of this daily.
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2. Start-and-stops. These can be done solo while masturbating or during sexual activity with a partner. Masturbate or have sexual intercourse until you are about to reach the point of no return, then abruptly stop and let your body calm down for about thirty seconds. When you have yourself under control, start again and go until you are about to ejaculate. Repeat the start-stop process three to four times per session.
By doing these exercises with regularity, you should be able to see at least a modest improvement in your staying power within a few weeks. Kegels will strengthen the muscles which control ejaculation, and start-stops will train your body to endure more direct penile stimulation before going over the edge.
Remember, you don't have to let premature ejaculation devastate your sex life or your relationship. Learn how to control your ejaculation and you and your partner will both be more satisfied than ever!